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Do you feel like your child is struggling, but you’re not sure what questions to ask?

Have teachers or others given suggestions, but their assessments don’t feel right or complete to you?

Brain function is a complex arena, with far more ways to be ‘glitchy’ than most people realize. At Child Decoded, we have created a comprehensive checklist system that helps you narrow down the precise symptoms you are seeing. Although our book is not a diagnostic guide, we can help you orient yourself in a more accurate direction.

Child Decoded also offers information on who does what kinds of assessments, what questions to ask about their approach and what they do and don’t include, and what to do to complete the picture. Precision in the beginning means much less frustration and ‘wandering around’ later on.

We have seen far too many families lunge from one practitioner to another, hoping this one will be the magic bullet. (Heck, we’ve done it ourselves!) But the secret is to get a comprehensive overview from the start. Let us help you figure out what that means for your child.

Families with complex children often face daunting challenges right from the outset.

bubbles-finalEvery evaluator sees something different. School testing can be incomplete. A bewildering mass of data can leave you overwhelmed and wondering how to proceed.

Child Decoded’s unique, extensive checklist system helps you pinpoint the true symptoms you are seeing, which can then lead you to consider diagnoses and resources you may not have examined yet.

The book also contains discussions on which issues are foundational and should be addressed first, how to prioritize your therapies (don’t try to do everything at once!), and how to keep it all running smoothly.  We also discuss the most common misdiagnoses, to keep you from wasting valuable time and resources going down the wrong road.

In the high-stakes game of helping your child, sequence does matter. Let us help you figure out yours.

Sometimes nothing seems to work. What then?

iceberg-finalYou got your diagnoses. You found your therapists. You feel like you spend most of your time either scheduling therapies and tutors, or driving your kids there. The only problem is, your child doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere. How do you figure out what’s missing in your plan?

Child Decoded covers all the major disorders and how they are frequently misdiagnosed, so that you can reconsider the data from new angles. Remember that some disorders are identified through lists of symptoms, not by taking a clear-cut test. Even experienced evaluators can miss something important or go in the wrong direction at first.

But more importantly, the specific academic struggles you are seeing may reflect serious but less obvious issues. Researchers are seeing more and more patterns in overall nervous system function, nutrition and digestive health, and emotional health that may be derailing your child’s progress. Child Decoded gives you the tools to dig deeper.

Not sure what the best options are for your child?

Wouldn’t it be lovely if the answers were simple and obvious? If your child struggles with X, you see Practitioner Y, who does Z, and all is good! Ah, if only. Especially with complex children, this is a frustratingly rare outcome. (Children with ADHD or autism automatically count as ‘complex,’ by the way.)

No two children are the same, even if they have identical diagnoses. There are too many factors involved in every case, too many differences in overall health and exact symptomology. Even temperament can affect whether an approach will or won’t work with a child. Plus, pediatricians are not always aware of all the possibilities, and often have only a few standard suggestions. Beyond that, you’re on your own to figure out what will be the key to unlock your child’s issues.

Child Decoded offers a number of possible answers. There is almost always more than one way to skin a disorder. Each chapter lists the kinds of practitioners who can work with a particular issue, and includes questions you can ask to get a better idea of how they work. We have also included a section on CAM (Complementary and Alternative Medicine) approaches that have been successful. Many families are unwilling to wait for clinical proof of something that is clearly already working, and have found valuable answers in the world of CAM.

Having trouble keeping everyone sane through this process?

Helping a complex child is often a long-haul project. We hear many parents say things like, “We’ve been at this for four months!” They’re incredulous, wondering why they aren’t done yet. And all we can do is gently say, “Buckle in. You may just be getting started.”

You’re going to need to get your head in the long-term game: organize yourself, pace yourself, and take care of yourself. Learn how to be your own case manager.  Find out what it means to work with your child’s school, and what’s possible when you hit walls there. Perhaps most importantly, keep tabs on how your child is doing with all this and do what you can to keep him positive and calm.

It’s a big deal. We get it. It’s your child. Let Child Decoded help.